Dear Reader,
LOL simply means Laughing Out Loud but the way I see it, it is more than just the meaning, behind that is a subtle message that could mean anything you want it to be. That is why I'm choosing to maybe make you see why it is better to LOL through life instead of always confronting it head-on.
I have heard it countless times; "face your fears”, "confront your weakness" and "hold your shit by the neck" but sometimes I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves every time.
I've come to realize that if you don't learn to feel right about whatever you're doing it would always not feel right, whether or not you face your fears, you have to believe in those steps you're taking towards confronting them.
I’m not trying to be smart, please. LOL
What if we don't try to control those things that scare us the most, what if those fears are meant to be something essential for growth. The one that would probably be a motivation for you to try things you would have never done.
When you start understanding everything it takes to be human, to live in this space, and all the storms that never cease to end, one is forced to start having different thoughts about certain situations, especially situations that are considered "laid down rules of life" "or the unspoken rules". Like the fact that you have to be strong, you have to believe in happily ever after, you have to be smart, you have to be beautiful and lots of standards that have been set for all to aspire to.
There is a reason for the one percent difference in every human's DNA, that is what gives us the leverage to live life the way we want. To decide on strategies that work for us not just following some prototype step-by-step instructions of another person.
Expectations and norms have placed a huge barrier between what we want and what we should want, many of us are stuck with what we should want, this is not even about following the crowd, it is not about doing what everyone is doing. It is one of the truths of our reality, that there are certain ways to do things, that things should be this way not that way.
Somebody wakes up and decides that you shouldn't live with the knowledge that you have things that scare you rather you should work yourself every day to face your phobias even when you don't want to. Then it became our truth, another one said he tried 99 times and got successful on his 100th trial, and that became the yardstick. I'm not saying give up, but we need to listen too, listen every time we fail, and try to see if we need to stop trying.
And I wish we could just all live by our truth and stop living on those that were handed to us. I've seen myself make decisions based on what is expected to be done, based on what is acceptable, and whether or not I like it. It is difficult to be human and we are the problem.
So How do you LOL your ways through life?
First of all, your fears are not your problem, they don't have control over your mind, the only reason we have gotten so immersed in trying to conquer our fears is because we have placed so much importance on them, we already made it Independent that fears are now so comfortable to cohabit with us as a part of our norm.
Second of all, you don't need to try the same thing 99 times, sometimes we might want to trick our minds into believing that there is another life after this, even if there is, it's only a 50:50 chance that it would be just like this one that you're living, so there's no point in going head on 99times. Take a break, do something else.
Third of all, everyone else would be fine. When you finally found your truth, please live it. Why this is hard is because we want everyone else to be comfortable with our decision or life but it is not your job to ensure that people get comfortable with your truth.
Fourth of all, being strong, hard, and emotionless doesn't equal success. You get it right? Work hard but leave that tiny space to catch up on the beautiful scenery of living. Make time to have real connections with the people in your life, it is lonely alone.
Fifth of all, Age is another conspiracy theory that someone somewhere started, they'd tell you oh age is not on your side, you're getting old, you need to be this and that before 35, but hey, age is one thing but it is not a measure of how and when you should live or when you should stop living.
Sixth of all, you don't need to agree with me, we already have enough "how it should be done", and I told you to find your truth. So maybe this is my truth and not yours.
And I will not just say "do what is best for you" because I know how it feels when someone says that and you don't know how to ask them that; "I don't even know what is best for me so how do I do what is best for me"?. It's a crazy world don't even think about it. Just Lol.
Do have a nice weekend!
Hmm, so much conspiracy about this thing called life. And even so much burden we place on ourselves because of expectations, fear and standards all created out of the illusion of a perfect life. Well, maybe to LOL our way through life is better. But that itself will soon become a standard. Thanks for the sixth way of trying to LOL life, everyone should just do them. Life is really complicated sha.
It is good to have you back, thank you for the Friday read.